By Lindsey Kukunda
“I was once told I would be arrested for being angry. My crime? The policemen refused to arrest men I was trying to report!“
One problem women face when seeking justice is the demand that they be meek and humble throughout the entire process.
That’s all well and good except that women start off by being exactly that. I will enter an office, behave like a civilized human being, say hello. be polite and then start being patronized, insulted or even sexually harassed as happens in police stations in Uganda as a matter of course.
Then I will get angry. Then their threats begin.
“You’re too angry. If you want us to help you, you’d better behave yourself”.
The situations are usually ironic because they put women in a frame of mind from calm and hopeful to frustrated and abused in an instant. And want you to respect them!
Don’t fall for that shit. You’re allowed to be angry when you’re not getting the service they’re supposed to deliver. You’re allowed and they do not have the right to tell you to eat their mistreatment before they can give you justice.
I’ve been dealing with a case of police misconduct and one policeman said, “We are trying to help you, but eh! You’re angry”.
I responded, “Yes! I am angry! You’ve done nothing but make me angry since I got here. So don’t tell me to put my anger away because clearly being nice isn’t getting me anywhere with you. Do your job, and get rid of me because I will remain angry until this situation is resolved”.
Just like that. Professionalism reined. As women, men in authority tend to regard us as 2 year olds, who I’d treat with more respect. There is no crime in standing your ground. If they’re going to call you emotional or hysterical or all the words they use to shut women up-give it to them.